Have you ever wondered why you think you’re losing interest in your partner? Don’t you feel the way you felt for your partner like the first day? What has changed? Are you to blame or them? Love sometimes demands too much above what we can offer. Meeting the right person who makes us feel special, unique and needed is a blessing. The right person will go several miles just to make things work and other times, we meet the devil himself clothed with a deceptive love.
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What Is Really The Problem?
If you ever asked this question? You truly want to put up solutions to restructure the shape of your love. It doesn’t take just assumptions and words to make it work but effort, hope and determination. If your partner has changed, there should be a reason and you should know. If you happen not to know why there is a sudden change in your partner’s way of life, response towards you or his/her reaction, then you’ve got a deer to chase. What has brought about the change? It could be from you or not. You can be judgemental at first glance. Therefore, you need to exercise patience and go forward with utmost concern about your discourse for the occurrence. After your partner’s utterance and you feel you’re at fault, it takes nothing to say sorry and mend broken glasses.
Why You Think You’re Losing Interest In Your Partner
He/She Stop Doing The Little Things
Every lover knows perfectly how to make his or her partner feel special and happy always. From wooing to falling in love, takes a lot of sacrifices, time, resources and commitment to make the journey smooth sailing. It doesn’t take a miracle to make a relationship stable or last longer. It doesn’t equally take luxury to sustain the relationship that’s between you and your partner. Those little things bond two hearts together for a lifetime.
As a partner, you don’t always have to spend all your time and resources trying to impress the other. You just need to know how to start, what to use and when to exhibit it. It could be going to the beach together, a party, a romantic picnic, dates, and surprising your partner with what you think he or she will love to have.
When things begin to wear off and the leaves of your tree start to fall off, this is one of the many things that will cease to happen. Your partner changes. He or she stops doing the little things that used to keep your happiness and joy company.
The major key that’s making you think you’re losing interest in your partner is because he or she had quit being that person he or she used to be. They have stopped buying taking you out, asking you out, surprising you or doing the usual. As a result of this, your partner begins to come up with a bunch of excuses for their absence, inactiveness and inabilities. With this, every human will have a bad feeling about what’s coming in the future.
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Communication Doesn’t Seem Important
Communication is the key to sustaining a relationship. No two ways about that. Even though most people don’t agree with this but it’s the gospel fact. A relationship that’s not bridged on effective communication hangs in the air and may fall off without any sign. A relationship without concurrent communication and checking-up is a heaven full of thorns, you don’t know when you’ll slip.
The reason why you’re having a feeling of loss of interest in your partner is that he or she has started to miss your calls, do not call back and do not call you. It makes you feel unimportant and unneeded in that relationship. If you’re a person who values effective communication, then you’ll easily develop such feelings faster than most who don’t. This tells you that, your partner is also beginning to lose interest in you. Not having effective communication with your boyfriend or girlfriend can gradually erase the love you’d for him or her.
Intermittent Meet-ups
How often do you meet in a month, days or weeks? Have you seen any changes? How does your partner value seeing you? If you begin to have an odd feeling about these questions, then you probably have every reason to start to lose interest in your partner. Love doesn’t work by magic. It takes two people to me it works. If you used to meet your partner every weekend, twice or thrice a month, and you seem to experience changes in his or her visitation, know that there is something faulty somewhere. Unless they have incurred another job which has misshaped their schedule. A person who loves you will always make it up to you no matter how busy, occupied or stressed out he or she is.
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“Always Busy” Tag
This tends to make you feel you’ve lost your partner. How can a person who’s always available become so busy to get in touch with you? How can someone ready to walk the storms with you begin to give excuses you hardly believe?
The truth is, a person who genuinely loves you will always make time for you; it’s that simple to understand. No matter how busy he or she is, a text message won’t be hard to deliver; unless it’s the nature of his or her work(busyness). For that, you can understand that.
Therefore you start to get suspicious of your partner if he or she becomes busy and occupied anytime you want to talk or have company. It’s not your fault that it’s happening. They’ve seemed to make your choice. Your feelings are born with emotions to feel when they’re ignored and neglected; so they feel it deep within thereby exhibiting through your thoughts and intentions.
Priorities Die-Off
Some time in the relationship maybe you realised what used to be important or a priority is now a norm. With this, you begin to feel that, your bond is trying to part ways. In every relationship story, there are priorities(both sides). These priorities serve as a road the love rides on. Without priorities, love is just admiration with no effect.
However, you start to realise your partner does not stick to what used to be a priority for both of you; it could be going out for lunch every Sunday, watching an anime once a week, going to the movies, morning and night messages & kisses, welcome hugs etc. When priorities tend to be a norm, your feelings become questionable and suspicious.
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When You Don’t Find Any Reason To Be In The Relationship
There is always a reason we love someone. It is not always about looks or body stature. Some go for intelligence, smartness, godliness and so on. When the reason you love someone begins to vanish into thin air, the love is in shatters and a mess. This doesn’t always come with a red flag. Some people who lose interest in their partners have had trouble finding why. Aside from the lustrous things most men chase after, the others who love honestly will battle with their minds trying to find the sudden change of heart. This is one of the reasons why you think you’re losing interest in your partner. At this juncture, you don’t see the beauty, intelligence, godliness, submissiveness and well-endowed looks that made you fall in love at a glance.
Change
Note that, every change brings change. You must have known your partner better than many; so a slight change in him or she will inform you. You can easily lose interest in someone who changes without a hint or reason. When in love, we get so much attached to the extent that, we tend to know our partners more than ourselves. These changes can come in so many forms;
- Doesn’t call or pick your calls
- Doesn’t visit you as usual
- Spends more time outside than with you(unless it’s a norm)
- Priorities changes
- Develop fondness with others(unless he or she is fond of that)
- Miss outings, dates, movies etc.
These are reasons enough to make you think you’re losing interest in your partner. Because love is a collaboration, sometimes, there is nothing you can do to make it work.
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End Part
As humans, we are bound to love and lose it within a twinkle of an eye. At times, we don’t control how that works; it’s natural. These points are informative enough for you to know why you have begun to lose interest in someone who meant the world to you.
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