Sometimes, it feels hard to come by a person who genuinely loves and understands you. It also appears that our path meets with the love of our lives but we end up losing them. Also, not meeting our expectations make us give up and have less hope for the future of the relationship. At a certain point in time, we fail to reason strongly that love is a natural cause and it surely takes time, persistency and space to make it work.
The best relationship is not the one with two perfect couples but two people trying out their best to keep each other.
There are about 4 solid reasons why most relationships fail to yield.
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Over Expectations
We all hate disappointments, yea. When hopping into relationships, we all begin to imagine what we expect to see or get from the other person. We mostly lookout for perfection and satisfaction We fail to work on ourselves to better; we expect to be given everything, absolutely everything. However, when our expectations prove void, we begin to think that we’ve been lied to and betrayed. The thing is, over-expectation kills the vibe and ruins relationships. Without expectations, we would have the best relationship of our time without disappointment, betrayal and lies.
Lack of Trust
Trust is an essential ingredient to spice up relationships. If you struggle to trust your partner, then you have a bigger pit to fill in your relationship life. Often, a lack of trust stems from our fear of being hurt in the future. Mistrusting some without a concrete reason but based on past experiences is something we all need to trash. Even problems should not be the reason to stop trusting someone. If you don’t learn to trust your partner, he/she will never have the heart to trust you too. You shouldn’t always think that your partner is lying. Offer them your entire trust until they willingly decide to lose it.
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Being Unapologetic
Pomposity and pride ruin relationships. When things go sideways, we get blinded by pride. When we do not learn to say sorry or admit to mistakes, we shall find the right person and will fail to survive the relationship. We should accept mistakes and say sorry when we are wrong. It costs nothing to say sorry or accept what you did wrong. This will bring a feeling of eternal peace and love therein.
Poor Communication Skills
The success of most relationships rests on frequent communication. It is what we do that tells the nature of the relationship and how far we want it to move. How could you live a day without calling or texting your partner to know how he or she is? Love encourages people to be up and check up on each other. If only we are in the relationship with the right person, we always want to be with him/her. If we don’t do our homework by bridging the bond with our partners, we handle the remote to someone called ‘bestie’ to make sure our partners get the attention and time they need and this can affect our relationship. A lot of people find no fault in this; it is ok to not find fault but it is. It works with time.
Poet Nazir is a writer and an editor here on ThePoetsHub. Outside this space, he works as a poet, screenwriter, author, relationship adviser and a reader. He is also the founder & lead director of PNSP Studios, a film production firm.
