Anger is a norm and part of a human’s life process. Sometimes, anger issues could awaken the devil in a person and tend to control him. Therefore, anger is a normal state of being that can’t be gotten rid of but can be contained, suppressed or controlled in a way.
As though anger is a norm it could, most at times be destructive and deadly. Anger may be caused by issues within an individual or issues with other people from arguments, bad feelings(emotions), or just a bad day. With most people, anger could be caused just by having to Reflect his/her mind on past events or even personal issues.
In an actual sense, as humans, it is very healthy and normal to be angry sometimes. Being different, we all have a way of expressing how feel when we’re angry. Some people have serious anger issues that make them do awful things like hitting, destroying or even yelling.
At the end of it all, they begin to show some sort of regret and bad feeling about their action. Others are easy to get off that situation; thus, they fully have control of the anger whenever it comes to them. Anger can be a rough mood. It could be very rough in most cases with ill-tempered people. Even those who are quick-tempered, have different ways of dealing with it both consciously and unconsciously.
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Personal Experience
Actually, I’ve been there before. As a school teacher, I wake up having a bad day. Most of my days are pretty bad. I sometimes find it as a norm or even an inheritance. And frankly, in hard to control it. I sometimes do but never find it so easy.
My anger issues indeed affected my lessons at school because I barely had time to play or have a smooth conversation with my learners. It was like ‘he’s always angry or emotional or irritated’. Even most of my kids found it difficult to talk or express themselves freely with me. Sometimes I wish it hadn’t happen but…What I do in these cases was to get someone to talk to especially, a close friend, mostly a female. Also, I sometimes channel the energy on listening to the Holy Qur’an on my phone or a soothing or calming music. It’s relieving, trust me. Even though it wasn’t so easy but I tried my possible best so it doesn’t affect the learners’ academic performances. Ok back.
If you tend to feel angry especially at things that make no sense, then you need to know you’ve got a bigger equation to solve. It doesn’t work magic if you don’t roll up your sleeves and start getting something done.
So we’ll look into some major symptoms of people who are easily tempered/angered. These lists are a disorder every individual who’s reading this should take care of.
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11 Symptoms Of Anger
- Getting into fights with people too often, at the least offence.
- Getting easily angered, irritated or pissed off.
- Verbally abusing people.
- Yelling/Insulting too often at the least chance.
- Threatening people.
- Getting angry at even little things.
- Hitting, squashing or destroying items when you’re angry or irritated.
- Quick heartbeat when you’re angry.
- When people are afraid or feel uncomfortable around you
- Channelling your anger on others or Blaming them for your issues.
- Not being able to contain mockery or a joke.
The above list is a serious problem for every individual but only a handful of us can control it. Being angry doesn’t mean you should do or say things anyhow without thinking about them. No matter how angry you are, you should have some sense of humour and the knowledge that, if something goes wrong, you, the individual will be blamed, not your anger. Anger issues vary from person to person.
You just need to know and understand and see how you best to handle the anger anytime it visits you. One should also know that anger can cause serious issues with your friends, work, relationships, neighbours and even with law enforcers. Therefore, without wasting much time, how do we effectively control our anger?
Some Effective Ways To Control Your Anger
- Keep quiet, breathe in and out slowly and relatively. So this for some seconds.
- Leave the premise if you think you will react when the situation gets worse.
- Think well before you act. Very hard to but very necessary.
- Learning how to forgive. You can’t necessarily forget at the spot, bit forgiving could work the magic at the moment. Then, you can make room to forget and move on.
- Exercising, for example, hitting the gym, home workouts, yoga etc.
- If you are good at journaling, try putting something on paper. It could be about how you feel.
- Calling someone you trust could help you relieve the anger. This could be your best friend, a close relative, your boy/girlfriend, your wife, your husband, your mom or dad etc. Just anyone you feel comfortable and relaxed to talk to.
- Try to take issues lightly no matter how tough that seems to be.
- Meditation.
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Meditation; A Quick Solution To Anger
Meditation: To sit or lie down and come to a deep rest while remaining conscious.
Meditation is one of the best ways to deal with anger. It is a situation that can help you relax and calm your mind, mood and body down no matter how angry you are. When you feel angry to the highest degree, the worst thing to do is to react to the situation and fight whoever it is and live to regret it every single day of your life and then the best thing to do is, find a place, all by yourself and alone, sit down and think for a couple of minutes. At this moment, according to the study, your mind will be refreshed and the anger will be suppressed. After some minutes, your mind and body will get back to their normal state.
Also at the peak of anger, you can ask to develop soothing thoughts to calm yourself down. These thoughts naturally tell your inner self how good you are, how quick that moment will pass and how best you can personally help to control the situation.
Some Soothing Thoughts You Can Try
“I must get over this”
“I mustn’t allow this to control me, think”
“Hey, this will pass in a bit”
“What’s gonna happen if I let go?”
“Can I just let this slide, to find peace?”
“Just think about what’s gonna happen after hitting him?”
“Will my actions matter after everything?”
“You’re in control. Don’t mess this up”
“No, this isn’t right, just leave”
Just practice this and see how good and powerful this will feel. Getting rid of this is a gradual process, don’t push it. Take it slow.
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End Part
Anger will, in the initial, feel like a god in your life. You don’t take that bold step to help it out, it will ruin you, make you violent, you’ll lose your friends, people will be afraid of you and you will end up alone and in lone. It will destroy you. You will have issues with almost everyone around you. And I’m sure you don’t want that. Let’s all take the first step by sticking to the procedures. It will work magic with time.
