Only a handful of us can overcome emotional pain overnight; the majority of us spend our lives dealing with it. Some take days, others take weeks, months, years or even forever. This kind of pain eats deep within us. If care is not taken, it could improve day-by-day, stress and depress you for a lifetime. Sometimes, we are not to blame. The world is full of everything; those we like and otherwise.
No matter how pained or hurt you feel, the pain would go away soon or sometime in the future. Whatever be the case, you’d get over it. Even with this normality, there is still something you can do to suppress the pain and live again. No one really deserves to suffer this. Before you get set to roll, you should know that the road might be tough and uneasy but you should hold on steadily. Because whatever you feel and think is happening within you; no one can help you but yourself.
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How To Heal Emotional Pain
Take A Walk/Exercise
Most people suffering from emotional pain and stress are lazy getting off from their seats or bed. Leaving your body lying on the bed on sitting in the chair can greatly contribute to the worsening of the pain. This is because, when you find yourself alone, you think a lot about issues that are not important or worth thinking about. You end up digging the past and feeling the pain even more. This can gradually lead you to the path of depression.
You can choose to take a walk or have a minor exercise in the comfort of your home or office. You can gear your mood up with a touch of music while exercising. Exercising with the music on can be a great tool to help you forget about the past and concentrate on the present. You can try anybody moving activity, it can help a lot. After the exercise, your energy would be refilled and give your nervous system a chance to carry on.
Do What Excite You
Doing what you love to do can be of help too. It doesn’t always mean to do what you’ve always been doing. It can be boring after some minutes. Therefore, you can try new things. You might’ve some hobbies you’ve been wanting to try. Try it and see how it goes. It would be more fun than you think. It could be anything at all;
➡️Books you’ve wanted to read
➡️Games(Mobile/TV/Computer)
➡️Scrapbooks
➡️Drawing
➡️Writing etc.
These activities can easily take your mind off whatever was eating you up. It has to be what you love to do, or you’ll not get the best out of it. It should also be something you’re eager and excited to do. Sometimes, the initial try would sound boring, don’t relent, just do something. The main motive for doing this is, to take your mind off the past and give you a reason to smile.
Write Down How You Feel(Journaling)
Sometimes the best way to get over something is to keep a journal about it. Speak up the journal book, it will listen. If you’re hurt emotionally, trust me you can help yourself to overcome it gradually by writing the pains down.
️What happened?
️How do you feel?
️Are you to blame?
️What can you do to help the situation?
Journaling these points and developing answers to them can help you get over them easily. But don’t be disappointed in yourself. Even if it is a mistake, it’s a mistake, and of course, it’s a matter of the past. You can never undo it. Try to get something better down about the situation just as is and suggest some possible solutions for the situation and how best you can help yourself. Don’t find any reason to blame yourself greatly for what’d happened. No matter how bad you were or how bad the situation is, remember that, there were times in the past when you did good and everything around you was good and healthy. That was just situational.
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It’s Good To Cry Over It
Sometimes we kill ourselves by hiding what’s eating us up. It is very bad to hoard pains inside of you. Or try to pretend as nothing had happened. This kind of behaviour might appear to be helpful for a while but could be dangerous to your happiness and activeness. It could also lead to chronic pain, indigestion, unhappiness, depression and some immune-related issues. If you find it hard to cry or express the pain through tears, you can watch a movie that can relate to how you feel.
Open Up To Others
Most people find it difficult to open up to others about the pains they are going through. That rather keep it to themselves for it to kill them than share it with someone. It actually feels hard to watch someone you love suffer, the same applies to others who care so much about you. Trying to hide the paint from people would only keep worsening the situation every second. The seriousness of such a situation can be very bad for your physical and mental health.
Find someone you care about, trust and confide in. Tell them what you feel and how best they can help you overcome it. It will shock you how they can help you make it work. Having a strong connection with someone can be the greatest antidote to our sufferances. Don’t be too secretive or private.
Don’t Talk About It Most Often
Most people become authors of their own pains when a topic is spread for discussion. At tones what hurt us the most is what goes on in our minds. At a point in your life, it is good to share the story with people to seek their assistance to get over it but at a point too, you need to stop talking about it for good. Often talking about it would only revive the pain you felt since day one. At times, while trying to remind ourselves of the pain we felt back then, this could lead to emotional anger and anxiety which can stop us from feeling what we initially felt before. So it is best to let go of the past and live on.
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Practice Positive Self-talk
You should talk to yourself most often. You know how well you are doing with life. Life is the most precious thing in the world. You have it, the next thing you need is a smile to spice up your day. How do you get that? Just remember that, there are bunch of people out there who are not as emotionally healthy as you are; no matter how you feel right now, someone is feeling worst than that. Say good things about you to yourself.
- I’m doing just fine.
- Oh, this is just temporary.
- I’m doing better than someone, come on, get yourself together!
- I’ll get over this.
- I’ll be fine, it doesn’t have to let my spirit down.
- I’ve got life, what else? Let me keep my days moving.
- Hey(mention your name) you can overcome this!
- and so on..
You just need to talk positively to your inner self for inner peace. You need to acquire that and have it in mind that, you are doing well, better and healthier than lots of people. Let it be the reason to get up and overcome that stressful, haggard and pain that’s destroying your day.
End Part
If you think you can’t help yourself overcome the pain alone, seek professional counselling, therapy or a friend’s help. Socializing with people can automatically help you heal the wound concurringly. You don’t deserve what you feel, free yourself from the entanglement of the pain and enjoy your freedom.
Poet Nazir is a writer and an editor here on ThePoetsHub. Outside this space, he works as a poet, screenwriter, author, relationship adviser and a reader. He is also the founder & lead director of PNSP Studios, a film production firm.
